Become more aligned with yourself
While I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, this isn’t therapy (and it’s also not your mama’s coaching)! I view therapy as to both heal and repair, whereas mindset coaching is to create a playbook to optimize your performance of a skillset—and everyone needs coaching.
Even the most talented and skilled folks benefit from coaching in areas that are important to them. It’s not about lacking skill, it’s about continuous improvement and support.
I know you’ve already got what it takes, I’m just here to help you unleash it.
This mindset coaching will help improve your mood and help you create healthier relationships and by feeling your best, you will bring your best to those areas versus feeling on edge.
The quick professional facts:
Archie Boy (and potatoes)
can't live without
fave travel spot
Hustle and Grind Culture, Judgment, Feeling trapped, or the word moist
Lavendar Vanilla Lattes, Reflecting by the ocean, Being a Lady of Leisure, and Low Expectations
"Everyone fails at who they're supposed to be, Thor. The measure of a person, of a hero, is how well they succeed at being who they are.
WORdS TO LIVE BY
This was never meant to be a trick question, and yet, people constantly fumbled over it and have difficulty answering it. I noticed everyone seemed stuck in the past and unable to answer what they currently love doing and what currently lights them up.
Seeing just how difficult it was for people to find fulfillment in daily life caused me to prioritize creating a blueprint that felt authentic, realistic, and exciting for each person who entered my coaching realm so we could get you off the Netflix binge and into your own life!
“What are your hobbies?”
I started mindset coaching because of one simple question that was surprisingly difficult for my clients to answer…
I’m so passionate about this work because I have a similar story to you—falling into the pattern of settling for societal norms that are so deeply ingrained in our culture.
As I got older, I realized people stopped celebrating their special characteristics and instead, started feeling shame for not meeting societal standards and expectations that they felt were set for them.
I felt it glaring back at me when I joined the workforce and was met by a lot of unhappy people. Here I was wide-eyed, bushy-tailed, excited, and ready to finally have my freedom and hop into the “real world” only to realize most people were walking around feeling trapped in lives they didn’t want to live, but that doesn’t make a great billboard.
I immediately wanted to CTRL + ALT + DEL! What I was surrounded by was everything I didn’t want in life. I only ended up there because I followed the “shoulds” and yet, doing it “right” led me to major disappointment.
Other people’s negativity started to wear off on me, I felt stress from the relational conflict of being stuck.
I had anxiety, rumination, tension, and constant gut-wrenching feeling that this can’t be it. I felt trapped and I didn’t know how to make changes, so I just kept treating the symptoms and not changing the source. Worst of all, I always felt “too busy” for what I knew was most important to me!
The pressure to fit in never ceased. I wasn’t just unfulfilled at my job. It felt like the expectations and stress from being human (getting married, having kids, being the perfect employee) were weighing on me. The expectations were there without me even initially realizing it and were set from TV, movies, social media, societal norms, and every other aspect of life. The lines of "the perfect path" were already laid out, but it felt far from perfect to me and I knew I couldn’t escape it.
So, I got honest with myself—I didn’t want to do any of this shit and it was clear. I had no interest in what I was told to do, I had no desire to be perfect, I didn’t want to be a hustler, and I was sick of feeling like I just didn’t…fit.
I wanted to drop the expectations. It felt like the world was pushing on me so I started asking questions and when I began answering them, it was clear I wasn’t living an honest life.
→ And you should take this as your sign if you keep saying to yourself, “this can’t be it” ←
Because it’s NOT it.
I craved new experiences, perspectives, and cultures—so I began exploring first the US then the world. On my first solo trip to Spain, when no one could contact me, I realized how much I needed to disconnect myself. All of a sudden, my life was just…mine.
I woke up the next morning full of life. I explored with no agenda, followed my intuition, and learned to spend my time on what I felt drawn to. For the first time, I wasn’t considering other people. I felt full, I felt a fire.
This was my “Eat Pray Love” moment, I became driven to stay connected to myself and leave situations and spaces that made me feel small.
Now I live with intention and have an understanding of my “why” and “why not.” I’m accepting of myself and non-judgmental, and I determined I wanted my life to be conducive to who I am, not who I was expected to be.
Now, as a therapist, I’ve helped hundreds of people explore and understand the path they have walked, but my absolute favorite space to be in with people is creating the path they’re taking—the path they have control of creating with a liberated mind.
let's work together
One of my best friends messaged me to say how homesick she was feeling being away from friends and family. Five minutes later I purchased my ticket, no questions asked. Perhaps I should have because I had no idea where Portland, Oregon even was until I boarded the plane! I was reminded how important friendship and community are on this trip and wrapped up the year visiting friends in New York, Washington DC, Miami, and Austin.
This trip was a pivotal moment in my life. I had been focused on community, but recognized the importance of connecting to myself. I packed my bags, grabbed my passport, and told my very reluctant mama I’d be back.
For the next week and a half I bounced between plane and train traveling throughout Spain (Madrid and Barcelona) and Italy (Venice, Florence, Rome). Although moving between quite a few cities, the world slowed down again and I felt realigned with what was most important to me.
Who gets lost in the Musée du Louvre? This girl!
Paris is a city for everyone to visit at least once.
Versailles. The Eiffel Tower. Moulin Rouge!
I was surrounded by cafe culture, beautiful gardens and famous landmarks.
Not to mention an overload of croissants and macarons (ugh, drooling again)!
This trip was special since a long time friend agreed to meet me for a portion of my impromptu trip. We easily traveled between Paris and London for memories that we will share forever!
G’Day, Mates! Sydney, Australia is a melting pot of culture, just up my alley!
There was a heavy sense of peace being surrounded by beautiful blue waters on various beaches and watching the sunrise above Darling Harbor.
Having an opportunity to watch a show at the THE Sydney Opera House felt like a once in a lifetime moment! Not to mention taking in the Aussie slang!
Maybeee I’m biased, but there’s something special about cities that let your pup come almost anywhere. Coined one of the dog friendliest cities in America, Asheville has been a quick and easy getaway full of wonderful local eateries, cute wineries, and lights up my artsy heart. It’s tucked away in the Blue Ridge Mountains, giving both chill weather and vibes.
Honorable Mentions: New York City, Tampa, Florida
* Austin, Texas (not east, but dog friendly!)
The capital of the Netherlands is full of unique culture and excitement!
Who doesn’t feel like a VIP being transported from place to place by boat!?
This history packed city is full of museums of everything (even a sex museum), collections of great art, windmills, beautiful tulips, outstanding cheese, and the famous Red Light District!
Amsterdam is a city to visit with an open mind. Not to mention, it was a quick train ride to Brussels, Belgium where this potato loverI ate alllll the frites possible!
Snowy peaks and mountains, Beautiful water views on the bay. A wall full of gum??
Seattle never left me wanting more.
I felt a sense of excitement roaming the streets of Seattle!
From grabbing a drink at the first Starbucks to viewing the phenomenal Chihuly Garden and glass, Seattle gave so many options it’s difficult to pick a favorite moment!
Honorable Mentions: Las Vegas, San Francisco, San Diego, Los Angeles
Sorry TLC, I went chasin’ waterfalls
My life vision is to live the rest of my life feeling how I felt in Iceland.
Waterfalls. Northern Lights. Erupting Volcanoes.
The Land of Fire and Ice was nothing short of magical.
I experienced my most free and fulfilled self in this breathtaking country.